I believe that those of us having survived divorce, have been truly left with little hope of finding their true love. After all, when you marry, you hopefully felt that you married the one person that, as Reba says, you can't live without. But then you divorce and find that you can. Leaving you to believe that you really don't know who the love your life really is even if he or she was standing right in front of you. Certainly if you've survived, you might no longer have the energy or fortitude to pursue the one that might just be the right one.
When someone comes along that reignites a long lost feeling, you might not recognize it for what it is. In fact it might scare the hell out of you and make you run away from it. Only to find that you made yet another mistake in your quest for a soul mate. On the flip side, falling for the wrong person can be as emotionally and sometimes, physically devastating.
My advice, which isn't worth the flat screen this blog is being read from, is to follow your heart but use your head. Be careful with who you date, be careful to leave sex out of the picture until there is a serious on-going relationship. Don't make a mistake here it can lead to a very bad result. Be honest with each other at all cost! Don't cheat while in any level of a relationship! Don't make excuses for your lack of interest. Tell him or her straight out as soon as possible that you're not interested. Regardless of whether you might hurt the person. But if you are interested, make sure you let him or her know that as well. And to what degree NO ONE can read minds and wrong impressions are easily formulated when the interest or lack of interest is left to question. But most of all, don't be afraid to present yourself as the person you are. No false fronts or representations, just to attract someone. Be true to yourself, your feelings and your heart. If Mr. or Ms. Right is out there, you'll find each other. If not, be comfortable with yourself and who you are. Regardless of your past.
Make everyday better than yesterday and let your dreams of tomorrow become reality today.
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Balancing in this sense is tough. You want to be open enough to take a risk, yet protect your heart at the same time. It's a fine line. One that I haven't yet successfully identified, I suppose. I can be open with my feelings, but if the other person is not as open or is not responding the way I'd like for him to? I become more guarded. And I hate the gamesmanship.
No matter what the level, it does take two to make (or break) a relationship.
You've already revised this post! I love the last sentence.
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