Three Strikes Your Out

First let me preface this post by saying the comments in this post are based strictly on here say and are in no way directed to anyone in particular. They will however be recognized by those who are guilty. That being said, this post is sort of response to a post found on my good friend Traci's blog. Please read her post before reading mine.

I would like to start by saying I am in total agreement with each and every statement she makes and pride myself at being one that practices the simple gestures she describes. What she doesn't state on her blog is how, even if he is a perfect gentleman, no matter how hard the man tries to win her heart, he will not stand a chance if his outward appearance, fails to meet the physical criteria by which the woman is attracted to. So there lies a fallacy of "How To Attract A Southern Girl".

And here are a few ways that a man will know she is blowing him off.

Strike One: She gives the man wooing her, the "Turned Cheek Kiss and Half Hug" as if she were an Aunt or a Sister saying goodbye to a family member.

Strike Two: She talks about her sexual past while knowing that the man that's wooing her would love to make love to her but she has no intention of letting that happen.

Strike Three: She talks about the type of man she is attracted to knowing that what and who she describes in no way matches the the man that's wooing her.

Now there might be other types of strikes and the man has to read what they are at that time. The confusing part to us men is that the level of interest the woman might have in the man might not be obvious. One might have to read a little between the lines. Or listen very carefully. One thing I've heard though, is that when the man stops wooing the woman, the woman tends to want to keep the game going. Trying to lead the man to believe that a chance still exists. But after the man experiences Three Strikes, he should be smart enough to know that any further action on his part will end with the same rejection and he'd be wasting his time and emotion on someone that does not share his feelings. So the Three Strike Rule might be used as a guideline to determine how far the man might want to extend his emotion.

As this is a response to Traci's post, I think I would like to state what a man might want from a woman if she is interested in him. Remember that the ten responses below, assume that the man is a gentleman who possesses a strong character and respect for women. He is not the run of the mill player. There's a whole other set of rules for those men. Probably a good follow up post to this one. Let me know in a comment if you'd like my opinion on the "Men Who Hunt In Bars"

1. Remember that a man has feelings. Especially the men that respect women.
   
   
2. If all a woman is looking for is a roll in the hay, and the man she cares to roll with has shown himself to be a gentleman, she better take the reigns and let him know what she wants. At least until he's sure he won't be crossing a line of inappropriateness. Because a gentleman is not going to put the moves on a woman unless he knows that's what she wants!
   
   
3. If a man has made it obvious that he is interested in the woman, and she is interested in him, than she should reciprocate his actions by returning the same to him. Example: take his hand when walking, or grab his arm and walk close to him, walk up behind him and massage his back. Or just put your arms around him and hold him for a quality minute.
   
   
4. Tell him how you feel! Whether it's what he wants to hear or not! Frankly this should go for the man as well.
   
   COMMUNICATION! Without it, you might as well hang it up before you "commence to begin to start".
   
   
5. Call him, email him, text him. If he is truly interested in you, and not a player, he will welcome all of the above, as often as you can provide it. He'll want to know how your day went and what you did and everything else about you. If you call, he will welcome the sound of your voice and want to see you all the more. And don't forget to ask him how his day went.
   
   
6. Surprise him by coming to his house with intentions of spending the night!
   
   
7. Surprise him when he visits your house by dressing up a bit. Just for him!
   
   
8. Know his likes and dislikes. Hopefully they will be similar, or at least complimentary to yours.
   
   
9. Include him in your activities with friends as he should with you.
   
   
10. Show him that you are happy and excited to see him, to be with him, to hear from him and to be seen with him!