One day you're married and then you're not

Then you're thrown to the wolves to try and figure out what to do next! You have finances to consider, decisions to make, new relationships to build, all when at a point in your life you thought your finances were in order, you already made all the important decisions in your life and the relationships you had were thought to be life long!

You watch as the financial foundations crumble, realize that the Important Decisions you made were all wrong, and the relationship you thought you had was nothing more than playing the role of the societal norm. You then find that society has changed. Men as well as woman have changed, and you, or truly for the purpose of this blog, I have not changed. At least not at the core level but the new society passed me by.

The reality is that in order to accept what we must say is life, we have to contend with the changes of others. The emotions that they have suffered that changed them ultimately changes the way we relate and respond to them. You find your core beliefs to be fragile and about to fall apart just to fit in. You think about becoming one of those who have already crossed the line. A cheater, a lyer or a head game player. You have to grab every ounce of strength to stand your ground and keep your core in tact.

The new societal norm presents itself as a world filled with mistrust, lies, head games, worry and concern. I believe it is fueled by those who have been cheated on, lied to and taken advantage of. Those that have been the purveyor of those tactics seem not to realize the damage they have done to themselves, the receiver and society in general. Nor do they seem to care.

As one who has been a "receiver", of one or more of the tactics above, I now have a mistrust in those I once would have immediately responded to with honesty and without thought of them possibly lying to me. Instead, now I watch what I say, analyze what I hear and generally take what I'm told as being an untruth. That is sad and against everything I once believed in.

When you think the most important people in your life, those being your wife, husband or partner can do no harm, BEWARE!

So what does that say for people that aren't the closest to you or are new relationships being built? I'm now face to face with the new societal norm. A society that seems to not even recognize whether they're lying to themselves, playing head games with others or just being stupid. As comedian Ron White says: "You can't fix stupid!" Let's not forget those who do realize what they're doing, and have no remorse for the hurt they may cause or the lies they have told. Or the "honest" ones that tell you about things with the most up front and casual design that cuts like a knife. Sometimes for their pleasure and sometimes to avoid a relationship.

So one day you're married and one day you're not and you're faced with the realization that everything you once believed in no longer applies and all the lessons of life you learned, have to be re-learned!

What happened to "Do unto others as you would want them to do for you"? Has society gotten to the point of changing even the Golden Rule to read "Do unto others before they do it to you"?